In my own journey in learning about prayer, I am coming to see prayer as conversation and not nearly so much merely telling God what I think or what I want. It isn’t that he is not interested with what is on our hearts nor unwilling for us to tell him our hearts. The Scriptures repeatedly invite us to pour out our hearts to God in prayer.
However there is a pattern in prayer that I have noted that has begun to influence my own life in prayer. The pattern? Hearing first, then asking. That is, listening to God, understanding him, hearing what he wants and what he is up to and then talking with him about that, participating in what he is doing through prayer.
Abraham, the “friend of God,” had been on journey with God. The Lord called him to himself out of Ur, drawing Abraham to leave a life of paganism and enter into a journey with the one true God. The Lord spoke to Abraham (initially named Abram) and told Abraham of his plans to bless Abraham, make of him a great nation, give him and his descendants a land. In Genesis 12 through 14, we are told a good deal about what God said to Abraham. We may assume that Abraham spoke with God about these things, but we are not given any details about what, if anything, Abraham said. Until we come to Genesis 15–there we are given the first words we know that Abraham prayed.
After these things the word of the Lord came to Abram in a vision, saying, “Do not fear, Abram, I am a shield to you; your reward shall be very great.” Abram said, “O Lord God, what will you give me, since I am childless, and the heir of my house is Eliezer of Damascus?” And Abram said, “Since you have given no offspring to me, one born in my house is my heir.” (Genesis 15:1-3)
Abraham is asking God something, but his praying is a response to what God has been telling him. It’s an asking based in hearing from God. God has promised offspring, descendants, a great nation, a heritage, a land. But Abraham and his wife are childless. So Abraham asks the Lord what he would like to do about it.
This is prayer that grows out of conversation with God. Prayer that is the response to things God has been communicating. Prayer as participation with God. Prayer a bit different from the way I first began to pray . . . but prayer more like what I long for in my journey with God.